The Soulmate Lover is more than a guide to passionate and lasting love, sex, and intimacy. It is an inspiring look at how we can become the best version of ourselves. And in doing so, we are able to give to others without limits or boundaries. There are quite a few gems throughout this book. The first set of gems were the exercises. I found that all the exercises were 1.) timely; 2.) easy to perform; and 3.) made me feel more healthy. For example, the Take a Time -Out exercise worked the second tried it. I still do it now just to keep my days balanced.Next, I discovered that letting go of your sexual shame allows you to reclaim your innocence. Perception really plays a strong role in how we see ourselves...how we identify ourselves...what we call ourselves. For victims of sexual abuse, letting go of sexual shame is like a torch that burns away all the negativity.Moving forward, I love this quote- "The more you appreciate all your body does for you, the better you will feel in it". How true this statement really is. I think we often forget that what we improve on the outside definitely has just as much of an affect as it does on improving the inside. Both can work together when properly addressed. The sections covering this topic reminded me that we are "full entities"...meaning...soul; body; mind; and spirit. If one of those goes out of wack, then chances are the others will eventually get out of wack too. Balance is important for maintaining healthy living.The next gem: Being aware of your sexual energy keeps you sexually vibrant. I like how the chapters covering sexual energy and keeping the spark intuitively emphasize that sexuality is subjective. Every lover can appreciate their lover when they, themselves, appreciate the sexuality within.The Power of Invitation chapter empowers even the shyest person to approach and interact with their lover without fear. In my opinion, this chapter opened up some major revelations in my own life. I realized that being a soulmate lover combines two aspects: 1.) not being selfish with your partner and 2.) being proactive, but in a way that benefits both your partner and you. This way both win in the long run. Short term satisfaction eventually is replaced with fulfilled long term joy.And last but not least, the sexual healing portions present some powerful healing truths of their own. As Mali and Joe stated, "when you heal on a sexual level, you heal on a spiritual, emotional, and physical level as well." Again, I think this also ties in with being balanced as an individual. Being a balanced individual helps brings balance into the relationship. If both lovers bring balance, then it makes for smoother soulmate living.Thank you for sharing this book with the world, Joe & Mali. With each book you two write, I always grow as an individual and learn a lot about myself. Life changing always. Definitely looking forward to reading the next one!