Tell us about a deep soul connection that you’ve experienced.

I once met this man and from the first moment I looked at him I felt a real connection. It felt like something opened in me. At the time I didn’t quite understand what happened. We met several times and every time we saw each other it was great.

Afterwards I started to think about what happened and I wondered why I was so different when I was with him: “Who was that women that I saw?” I really didn’t recognize myself, I was open, I talked about myself (which normally I didn’t do). I was more myself then I had ever been.

Shortly after that I sensed “this is the person who is going to tear down all my walls”. And that was exactly what happened, but not always in the nicest way… I was confronted with each and every one of my limitations and beliefs. Oh, I wish I could have read your book back then. Perhaps things would have worked out differently. I lost the connection and that is something I still regret. We both made mistakes. But I can still see he is a great guy and I am a great woman, only we weren’t ready for each other.

I think I needed this experience to truly open up and become myself. Because not only all my walls (which I had been building over decades) were torn down; it also awakened my intuition. From that moment on all my senses were heightened and I was clairvoyant. It was just like somebody pulled a switch: suddenly it was there. It took me several years to learn to manage this. At first I found it difficult to separate my feelings and the ones I felt from other persons. Luckily I entered a training where I learned all about intuition and how to deal with this. Now I can see it as gift that I can use to help other people.

Linda van der KwastWhen do you feel your most soulful?

Every one-on-one conversation I have with a person feels soulful. I am not my best in large groups, especially because I take in a lot of energies from my surroundings. I prefer one-on-one conversations. I find that when you really can be yourself and show yourself (even if it is just a smile or a short conversation) it invites the other person to do this as well, and the most amazing meetings can take place.

Where have you felt the most in touch with your own soul?

That is easy: the sea is my home! Well, not actually because I live a 2 hours’ drive away from it, but it feels like home. Just to be able to stand with my bare feet in the water, eyes closed and to feel! The warmth of the sun on my face, the sound of the waves crushing on the beach, the smell of the sea and to feel the breeze; that is all I need. At such a moment I just Am. In busy periods I really need to have these kinds of moments to release built-up energies and to take in new energy. That just happens when my feet touch seawater. (The photo was taken at Zandvoort, the Netherlands).Zandvoort (the Netherlands)

What qualities do you feel a soulful relationship has?

Forgiveness. For others as well for yourself. We are all here to learn and to find our true selves. And to do that we try things and we sometimes make mistakes and we learn from them. If only we could understand this, in all relationships (love, friendship, family, work). We so easily judge and reject each other when things are not going the way we think they should go. But we are all different persons and have different things to learn. Each one of us has our own path to walk. Which doesn’t mean that because it’s different from yours, it’s wrong. If we just could accept each other and help each other along, it would make such a difference.

To be able to be yourself in any relationship and to know that the other person sees you and accepts you as you are, with your nice qualities and the things that are not so nice, that is really a soulful relationship.

And second, being open, honest and vulnerable. Don’t hide things from each other, but learn to open up and talk about what you’re experiencing. I know, first hand, that sometimes it’s scary, but please try. Every relationship is worth it.

What do you feel your soul’s purpose is?

I think it is to help other people. With my intuition, my experience and my knowledge. During one of my walks earlier this year I suddenly felt that I needed to start writing. So I started my blog, thebluebutterfly.nl. Every week I write a short story about something I learned or experienced.

Linda van der Kwast If you’ve read The Soulmate Experience, what ideas or suggestions have been most useful to you?

I think every chapter in the book does that for me. The Soulmate Experience is such an affirmation of all the things I’ve learned over the past years.

The most important thing I’ve learned is to see your life and the things you experience in a different way. Try to go with the flow and accept things as they are, instead of resisting them. That doesn’t mean agree with them, but to face them. We sometimes look at our experiences or the people we meet as obstacles. And we tend to wallow in our emotions and point our fingers at the other one. I know I did. But from these challenging moments we can learn so much. They serve as mirrors to help us see where we have limited ourselves and where we can grow. If you face these challenges and really allow yourself to feel the fear and insecurity that is hidden inside of you, you can overcome so much and really change your life and be who you truly are. I know. I did.

The butterfly is a metaphor for transformation. But it also is a symbol of freedom to me, the freedom to be yourself. Blue is the color of the 5th chakra. It is the area of your throat, of communication and self-expression. You can be a butterfly, but you are asked to show this to the world as well!

With my blog, The Blue Butterfly, I hope to help people face their challenges and to inspire them to discover who they really are, so they can show themselves to the world. I truly believe that this butterfly exists in all of us, we are all meant to be free to be ourselves. You can also find me on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest. My stories on the website are in Dutch and English.

Thank you Mali and Joe for asking me to share my experiences with you and your readers.

Mali Apple & Joe DunnThank you, Linda, for being so self-revealing so that we may learn through your loving example! ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love.