A Woman with Soul: Estelle Bonnet
Tell us about a deep soul connection that you’ve experienced. I experienced an unexpected soul connection with an elderly lady with whom I would visit as a companion volunteer in a hospice program every week. I will call her Jane to protect her privacy.
She understood my humor and I have never seen someone’s face light up so big as when I would tell her jokes or funny stories.
In the assisted living home where she stayed, the other residents had various dispositions due to their conditions. One of them would express a lot of negativity toward me when she’d see me visiting with Jane. It was very awkward for me, and I would just smile and be gracious to her. Surprisingly, one day, the otherwise sweet and meek Jane told this lady to go away very passionately. I told Jane, “Thanks for sticking up for me!” She said, “Of course! I consider you my friend.”
I needed to take a break from visiting Jane for an extended time due to career and school demands. However, I intuitively sensed that she was still pushing on, and predicted within a few days when she would pass away. I just knew she was going to die soon and tried to arrange a visit. Due to some transitions that were taking place within the hospice program, I was not able to see her in time to say good bye. However, I feel that I did my job as a volunteer by helping her feel loved during her last days. I am sure she felt my presence when she died. I still sometimes feel her presence when I think about her or drive by the assisted living home and remember the joy she brought to my life even though I thought I was there to help her.
Describe one of the most soul-opening moments of your life. I had gone through a breakup with someone who I thought was my soul mate. I was devastated. However, this led me to really seek self-growth. If it wasn’t for this hardship, I would not have discovered the many spiritual truths that I have recently learned. It was also this experience that led me to learn how to meditate in a way that really works for me. Though I was happy with my life to begin with, I’m amazed by how this new meditation practice has dramatically changed my life for the better.
When do you feel most soulful? I feel the most soulful when I help someone, whether a friend, “enemy”, or stranger, and I can see how my actions or words help them realize that there is a lot of love and good in the world.
Where do you feel the most in touch with your soul? I feel most in touch with my soul when I am meditating in nature. I have a favorite park that I enjoy for this purpose. It is amazing how much more I can appreciate nature and life when I am brought to greater levels of awareness through meditation. I will see things that I may not have noticed before, like the specific way the sunlight hits the ripples of the water. I also feel more in touch with my inner peace.
Who is one of the most soulful people you’ve ever known? Without a doubt, the most soulful person I have ever met was my friend Jesse, who died of brain cancer in his 20s. He was the most positive person I have ever met and had such a zeal for life that you noticed immediately upon entering his presence. As an avid rock climber, he described his condition as the hardest climb he ever faced and somehow remained positive and inspiring. When he would go to the cancer center, he made it his mission to make the staff there happy by bringing laughter into their lives, even in his condition. I will never forget him.
What qualities do you feel a soulful relationship has? I think a soulful relationship is characterized by acceptance – of yourself and the other person. Even if you don’t understand or agree with something about the other person, you give them the benefit of the doubt. You validate where the other person is in his or her journey. You recognize that we are all in this together and are part of the same energy.
I feel so blessed to have such strong connections with a number of family members and friends. I believe that there is an abundance of love and support for everyone in the universe. We just need to open ourselves up to it. I also believe that there is an abundance of strength and wisdom to overcome any obstacle that we encounter in life. There are also many gifts and experiences for all of us to receive that will enhance the joy and peace in our lives. A lot of how we experience life has to do with our perspective, our ability to be honest with ourselves, and the ways in which we choose to live through love, rather than through ego or fear.
What do you feel your soul’s purpose is? So far, I think I continually fulfill part of my soul’s purpose by helping others and making a positive impact on other people’s lives. I also believe that there is some other purpose that I have yet to discover. I look forward to seeing all the wonderful things that will unfold!
Leave Estelle a note below! ♥ Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide to Creating Extraordinary Relationships (available in paperback, ebook, and audio), the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and the creators of Mantras for Making Love and Overcoming Jealousy