A Woman with Soul: Cecily Kathleen McCarthy
Tell us about a deep soul connection that you’ve experienced. I have had a deep soul connection with my ex sister-in-law, she seems to “get” me and understand me better than most people ever have and loves me in spite of what “I” believe are my flaws. Also my best friend gets me as well. I’ve never experienced this with a mate or partner.
Describe one of the most soul-opening moments of your life. My most soul-opening experiences happened years ago, mostly when I lived at home still and then only a few times after 40 and that was astral traveling in my dreams. I used to dream I was flying and I could feel the clouds and the wind as I flew and smell everything as though it was really happening… I would fly over certain places, each one different, and hang out, meet people and have amazing conversations without actually speaking. Sometimes these people would fly with me and we’d go to different places and have amazing experiences together. I think I was teaching people something but really don’t know what it was and actually miss those experiences because they felt very real to me and have no idea why they stopped.
When do you feel your most soulful? Truly feel most soulful when near water or with my dog enjoying nature. The man I’ve been involved with off and on for over 3 and 1/2 years is an ex semi-professional jet ski racer. We used to go to a reservoir and I’d just watch him and his friends as they jet skied, sitting on a rock near the water, and for some reason it gave me a tremendous amount of peace. I used to be afraid of the water because I almost drowned as a kid but decided to get over it as an adult. I did go on his jet ski with him and had an absolute blast which helped me in many ways as well. I first went with him as I was going thru my divorce. It gave me a sense of peace again, and just let the stress of it all melt away.
I especially enjoy walking with my dog and have found a weeping willow tree on our walks that reminds me of the trees I grew up around as a kid in Missouri. They do not grow even 1/3 as large in Colorado but when I found this tree nestled between a few others, I was thrilled! One day I just decided to sit under it on a large boulder and close my eyes… all of a sudden in my mind’s eye I could see this tree multiplying and then vibrating—it was as though we were connecting on some level. I just let it happen and then opened my eyes and began my walk home. As I did so I could smell every single thing, every blade of grass, every flower, every scent carried by the breeze….I felt very connected to nature at that point and while I do visit that tree and that place relatively often, I have not had the same experience since but just love the tree.
My experience with walking with my dog is more of a bonding and sharing experience with my special pet. Duncan runs and has such a great time. I swear I can hear him laugh and get as excited by everything he sees, smells and discovers, just like me. It’s as though he keeps me childlike, which I love.
Who is one of the most soulful people you know? My friend Narda, who I met on Facebook, is probably the most soulful person I’ve even known. She has a specialness about her that I’ve never found in another human being. She radiates joy and happiness and is on a special journey to open herself up to the wonders and gifts of life and to help others do the same. I feel her love flow to me every time we talk or I see her postings on FB. I believe she was sent to me as a gift from the Universe and she is just very special to me.
What qualities do you feel a soulful relationship has? Acceptance above all, trust, love, understanding, loyalty, support, encouragement—and let’s throw in some humor!
What do you feel your soul’s purpose is? I think my soul’s purpose is to learn, grow, and love myself and help others do the same. I want very much to help others believe in themselves as I had such a difficult time learning this myself. I would like to talk to women especially because I think we’ve been taught to sacrifice ourselves too much in relationships and therefore become invisible. I think we’ve been taught that we have less or no value as a result. The primary relationships in which there is physical intimacy are loaded with unrealistic expectations and I want to understand that it does not have to be that way. I understand that there’s vulnerability at stake but want to believe so much in myself that my sense of self is not threatened because of it and then teach that to other people.
I also want to enjoy everything life has to offer no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, like seeing a butterfly fly from flower to flower.
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