A Soulmate Love Story: Eileen & John
How did you meet, and how did you know that this relationship was special?
Eileen: We met online through a dating site. I was about to cancel my profile but did a last look at “new” faces before deleting myself. That’s when I saw John. He was BRAND new. He had just made a profile 20 minutes earlier. The oddest part is that he was WAY outside my dating radius, by 100 miles! There was no reason for him to have shown up on my list and I’d never gotten a listing for anyone that far out. In fact, when I looked at his profile, I was shocked how far away he was, but I seriously curious.
When we met for dinner two days later (yep, it was that quick!) I immediately got lost in his smile. We sat down to dinner and didn’t emerge from our cocoon until we realized they were closing the restaurant. When he kissed me goodnight, I had a feeling that I had just entered into something life-changing—that my life would forever be measured in “Before John” and “After John”.
John: Six months after my wife passed away unexpectedly, I felt ready to slowly immerse myself in the world of dating, a world I never imagined myself in again. Eileen was so far outside the range I’d set for myself that it was startling. She contacted me anyway, and her openness, directness and honesty came shining through. Immediately we began building trust on those first, correct impressions.
Do you feel that you’re connected on a soul level?
Eileen: I’ve never been with anyone that I’ve felt connected to like this. It’s beyond a feeling of being in love. It’s like there is an invisible string that pierces through the two of us, binding us together. It’s not because we don’t ever disagree. There is something deeper that is the larger part of who we are together, something that makes us as a couple a whole new entity. It makes even the simplest activities seem sacred.
John: There is a psychic connection between us. There are times I can tell she is going through something rough without even talking to her, and almost every time I feel it, I find out that’s the case. I can feel her no matter where she is in the world. If I just close my eyes, I can find her. It’s like a string between us, a connection that transcends time and space.
Describe one of the most soulful experiences you’ve had together.
Eileen & John: One night, we went to a friends’ wedding. The wedding was beautiful and it was an enriching experience. Afterwards, when we returned to our hotel, we were cuddling together when we had this incredible experience. It felt like we were both being surrounded by warm, white light. We both felt it and kept asking each other, “Do you feel that?” Suddenly, it was like we could see inside each other, straight to the core. There was a pure golden light shining. It was beautiful and flawless and so full of love. At that moment we both knew we were all we knew each other to be and more. There was an overwhelming feeling of wanting to feel the essence of each other poured into us and to return that love, joining our essences together. We could feel warmth emanating out of each other and suddenly got a burst of energy. Apparently we had experienced some kind of energy exchange. It was the most profound and mystical experience either of us had ever had!
How do you feel that you benefit from being in this profoundly connected love relationship?
Eileen: I’ve become a more loving person as a result of being with John. Everyone around me has noticed it over the course of our relationship. My children absolutely LOVE John and are thrilled that we are merging our lives together. They said they hadn’t ever seen me so happy and it made them happy. Our home is this incredible place of positive energy, something I’ve never experienced. My home growing up was tumultuous and my marriage to my kids’ father was volatile. Now our home is bursting with love energy in a way I wish I could have known years ago. But I won’t complain; I’m grateful for having found this incredible love.
Do you feel you have a shared purpose for being together?
Eileen: We both feel like we entered each other’s lives at a critical moment, after tragedies in both our lives. We went through so much alone on a personal level. When we met, there was an immediate connection and a sense that we were moving in the same direction as individuals. We complement each other on a very deep level and bring out the best in each other. We’re helping each other move towards a more actualized version of ourselves as individuals and as a couple.
John: One of our shared purposes is to create a family and to raise our children and to help undo the damage done from the tragedies we’ve suffered. It’s been healing to our extended families to see that we can go on, that the sun will rise again after a dark night. There is so much more at stake here than just two people finding love. We’re bringing inspiration to our children, our families and friends. So many people have said to me how much our lives have inspired them, because we’ve transcended these tragedies. We’ve become a tale of triumph, almost legendary among our friends. We’ve created waves of positivity that are ringing out through the universe. We’ve shown that you can bring death and divorce and the worst that life has to throw at us but we’ve not just survived, we’ve triumphed. We are truly ALIVE!
Eileen & John: I don’t know the full extent of the light of hope we’ve become for people. Our children are thriving, we are thriving and it gives people hope that you can succeed and you can be happy; it’s a choice. Love is a choice. Nothing is more powerful than that and it starts with the two of us – it is our love. That kind of love will send ripples through the far reaches of the universe, to the ends of time and space.
What advice can you offer other couples to help them keep their connection strong?
Eileen: Break down your walls. You can’t love if you keep yourself walled in and your lover walled out. That was the hardest, and most rewarding, lesson that I’ve learned with my soulmate.
John: Trust and honesty is everything. Honesty sometimes means that conversations are difficult but when you come out the other side, you’ll find the relationship much stronger. Those things that most couples don’t want to talk about are the things that become resentments that stew for decades. Sometimes you have to walk through the fire to make things right. But when you get through to the other side, you’ll find it didn’t hurt as much as you thought it might, and you won’t ever carry resentments, which are more painful than anything.
What advice can you offer single people who desire a relationship like yours?
Eileen: Don’t give up! I had just about lost faith after years of dating. But there was always a small, glowing part of me that was hopeful. Don’t let the spark inside you go out, and don’t let other people discourage you. Stay open: Love doesn’t come in the way you think it will.
Thank you for sharing your soulmate experience with us—we are inspired by your example of what a truly soulful connection is all about! ~Mali & Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience, 52 Prescriptions for Happiness, and the upcoming book The Soulmate Lover, and creators of Mantras for Making Love